How to Really Arouse a Woman

Finding the Elusive Kiss
So you are been touching your beautiful date in a non-threatening, playful, and sexually stimulating way. You are ready to go (naturally), and she seems into you, but for whatever reason, the CHANCE never seems to come. The kiss-me look never quite materializes, or it comes at just the wrong time (her cell phone rings, for example). She is shy and never gives you a good head-to-head look from which you can lean into it (and twisting around her craned neck is NOT sexy). Whatever. It happens. What can you do? Well, one thing that works all by itself almost ALWAYS is this:
Take Control
Gently but firmly take hold of her chin between your thumb and index finger. Move her head to face you. Think sex scene in a movie. Chances are she will melt then and there and you will not have to say a thing.

HOWEVER, sometimes you will have a woman who wants to PROVE just how strong she is, or how cool she is, or she will just be so nervous that she will actually pull away slightly even though she WANTS to be kissed. What do you do?

Be straightforward: Say “Do you want me to kiss you?” ...
If she says yes or nothing, just do it. If she says maybe, say “Let’s find out.” and do it. And if she says no (unlikely given the build-up you have gone through to get here) say “I didn’t say you could – you just looked like you had something on your mind.” in a playful teasing tone. Don’t act let down – you were just PLAYING with her. Get it?

Wow, that was easy.

Be bold by not caring
You need to be BOLD here – although bold is not the right word. Bold suggests you are doing something DESPITE doubting yourself or the result. It suggests a bravery that you want to erase.

WHAT?!! I don’t want you to be BRAVE? That’s right. I want you not to care. Listen, OBVIOUSLY you want to score. If you didn’t, you would not go to the trouble of wooing this lady, or setting the right mood, or reading this article.

But you can’t let that be your OBVIOUS DIRECT goal when you are in the process. You need to concentrate on the PROCESS, and your GOAL should be as slick as you can. Do that, and yeah, the sex will come (woohoo!), but if all you worry about is the sex that gets telegraphed to your lady in the worst possible way.

So, again, RELAXED playfulness is the key. While you are sexually cuing her you don’t want it to be overtly SEXUAL, acting like a dog in heat. You want it to be FUN ... think "puppy" ... and STAY PLAYFUL, don’t get serious The mistake most men make when they try to it turn up the notch is they suddenly get too SERIOUS. Master your mind. This is where mind power pays off.

Think about it. Imagine yourself in a first kiss. How often are either of you smiling as you go into it in your head? Admit it. Not much. Most likely your imagination has you both laughing, catching each others’ eye, sobering up with a soulful look, and then a lustful lip-lock. Listen, it can work that way. Just like people can fall in love at first sight. However, when you get SERIOUS at this crucial moment you cause her to think SERIOUSLY about it. Suddenly she is switched into “Is he mate material?” mode and, unless you are got a deep spiritual connection going, She is going to have some doubts.

You do NOT want doubts. You do NOT want all those somber questions floating around. Hell, it is just a kiss! Stop treating it like a life-long pairing. Keep it RELAXED. Keep it PLAYFUL. Keep it FUN. So no, don’t be brave about the kiss. If it takes that much bravado, you are already built it up too much. Treat it like you are been there before. Like a natural extension of the fun You are having. And not like you are entering some new chapter in a saga, but just part of the path.
Trust me, this works.

And, once you are kissed – STOP. That’s right. Muscle up your mind power and go back to the fun you were having like nothing happened. Let the passion build. She will wonder what the hell’s going on. Of course, you know you are just TEASING her. By pushing forward and then stepping back, You are increasing the sexual tension. Suddenly she is the one thinking about sex – not in the serious Could-I-Marry-Him? way, but in the Does-He-Like-Me? way. See? As you have mastered your mind you are beginning to influence her thoughts.

When you fill in your next silence with another kiss, you should take it a little further. Then, draw back a bit. And then, later, take it a bit further.
See where this is going? You want to ratchet up the sexual tension until she is WANTING to go further, faster than you are going.

Keep playful. Make her beg (not in a mean way – remember, this should be FUN for BOTH of you). Before you know it, you will both be naked and dancing around the sofa.

If you go too fast and she is uncomfortable, back off a bit and build her up. The key is making sure she WANTS the next step before you get there. This means taking your time. Master your mind and go slow. Pay attention to all the parts of her body (the erogenous zone is anywhere on the body, as long as you take your time and stimulate it).

Surprise her now and again – give her a tickle when she expects a caress. Peck her cheek and lean back when she expects a french kiss. Ever-so-slowly undress her, but when her bra is off, say “Oh, you look cold”playfully and put her cardigan over her shoulders and lean back with a mischievous grin.
Get it?

If you have ever been with an experienced woman who is serious about pleasing a man, you will have noticed how she uses teasing to build you up to full passion before giving you your full pleasure. Teasing is a way path to anticipation ... leading the mind to where you want to arrive quickly.
That’s how you want to treat her.
The ladies will thank you for taking the time to enjoy the moment, building up the passion, the anticipation. And that skill requires that you master your mind.

Enjoy this knowledge, because not only is it a key to properly arousing a woman, but it’s a key to great sex as well. Use it wisely.

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